Midlife with Brooke23 Juni 2025

Episode 6: When the Story Hurts, Start with the Facts

In this episode of Midlife with Brooke, host Brooke Oniki invites you to step back from the emotional swirl and gently ask: Is this the story—or just the facts? Whether it’s conflict with a daughter-in-law, an old wound that still stings, or a narrative you’ve repeated for years, Brooke guides you through the empowering process of separating truth from assumption.

Using heartfelt stories and real coaching tools, Brooke shows how the stories we tell ourselves shape our emotions, our relationships, and even our sense of self—and how shifting those stories can bring deep peace and healing.

You’ll learn:

The difference between facts and the stories we attach to them
How to use a thought download to clarify what’s true
Why stories like “I’m in the way” or “I ruined everything” are not only untrue, but unhelpful
How to reframe situations in a way that reflects grace, faith, and emotional maturity
Why God invites us to grow—not to stay stuck in shame

Whether you’re processing old pain, midlife family transitions, or just trying to move through a tough moment with more peace, this episode will help you rewrite the script with compassion and clarity.

Try This Practice:

📝 Do a thought download about a painful experience.

✅ Circle the actual facts.

❓ Ask yourself: Is my story useful? Do I want to keep telling it?

🧠 Then write a new story—one that’s kinder, truer, and aligned with who God is calling you to become.

Faith-Focused Reminder:

God is not asking you to carry shame. He’s inviting you to tell the story again—with more truth, more grace, and more love.

Explore more with Brooke Oniki:

Visit www.brookeoniki.com to sign up for her newsletter, book a free session, or join a group coaching cohort.

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