Regular Guy Friday Ep. 52: How Shame Blocks Dreams & Why Anger May Open Them

HAAYYYYY KWEENZ!! That’s right…we made it…it’s FRIYAY aka YOUR day!  It’s definitely not been an easy week for Kev and Kels, but connecting with fellow Regular Guys and Gals always makes it better. This episode is VERY important as Kelsey teaches us some new, and dare we say, vital Kween lingo: words, hand gestures, head movements and all.  Yass Kween.   Kev updates us on the passing of his mother-in-law, reminding us about how funerals are for the living.  Losers love limbo but sometimes winners are forced into limbo. Kev relays his proven daily formula to making limbo work for you.  Kev's limbo process led him to a cemetery and a gravesite marked 'Mr. Christmas.'  Hmmmmm. It all makes sense when you hear the story.  Unfortunately we failed you all and didn’t end the show with ‘byeeee beeetches’ but will you all give us a pass this week? LOVE U KWEENZ. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

7 Mai 20211h 28min

YouTube: https://youtu.be/a0UB5bILWVE DeVon Franklin, award-winning producer, New York Times best-selling author and renowned motivational speaker sat in with the #HealSquad to discuss his new book, Live Free: Exceed Your Highest Expectations. DeVon talked with us about managing our expectations; we must manage them or they will manage us. Whether it’s societal expectations, expectations we have of ourselves, our loved ones, our bosses, you NAME it...we are letting all these expectations run the show! If we want to fully live our destinies and live FREE we must let go of expectations, they are the weights holding us down. DeVon also helped us with how to cultivate hope and reminded us that pain is the greatest catalyst for change. We are so grateful for all of DeVon's incredible lessons, and hope that you gain some incredible tips, tricks and tools too. Let’s all learn to manage our expectations so we can live the life we are really supposed to live! Find DeVon’s book here: https://www.amazon.com/Live-Free-Exceed-Wildest-Expectations/dp/0063031175 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

6 Mai 20211h 12min

YouTube: https://youtu.be/hh4AvdT_JU0 Vanderpump Rules fan favorite, Lala Kent sat in with the Heal Squad to discuss her new book, Give Them Lala. The book, which she dedicated to “those courageous enough to be themselves” is a raw and vulnerable look into her life - from her younger years to now. Born Lauren Burningham in Salt Lake City, Utah, this talented girl always had big dreams. Even though she was constantly picked on and bullied throughout adolescence, Lauren didn’t let that deter her from her end goal - to be an actress. Lauren made the move to Hollywood where she would face her fair share of difficulties, including her own awful “Me Too” moment from a slimy agent, an abortion, slut shaming by her own Vanderpump cast members and fans, and more..It wasn’t long that dropped the name Lauren and took on the name and persona of Lala Kent, Lala which she viewed as her “armor” that would protect her from all the hate. Lala Kent is such an evolved, beautiful soul and friend and we are so grateful to have her on the show and excited for you to all hear her incredible story. Find her book here: https://www.amazon.com/Untitled-LK-Be-Confirmed-Gallery/dp/1982153849 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

5 Mai 20211h 28min

YouTube: https://youtu.be/WYNFOhD0Jl4 Dr. Caroline Leaf, best selling author and physician whose innovative work and research has led to the successful treatments of ADD, PTSD, addiction, anxiety, depression and so much more sat in with the Heal Squad for a two part interview.  Dr. Leaf shares the science behind rewiring our brains  and how our brains and mental thoughts lead to over 90% of our physical ailments and even age us.  Dr. Leaf shares her 63 day, five step method to rewiring our brains to eliminate anxiety, depression, bad habits, shame and more.  She also discusses how you can rewire the brain for positive actions and occurrences.  This may be one of the most powerful interviews yet as if a brain can truly be rewired imagine all the positive things that can come and the negative things that can be averted. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

4 Mai 202138min

YouTube: https://youtu.be/dyutuW2YMug Dr. Caroline Leaf, best selling author and physician whose innovative work and research has led to the successful treatments of ADD, PTSD, addiction, anxiety, depression and so much more sat in with the Heal Squad for a two part interview.  Dr. Leaf shares the science behind rewiring our brains  and how our brains and mental thoughts lead to over 90% of our physical ailments and even age us.  Dr. Leaf shares her 63 day, five step method to rewiring our brains to eliminate anxiety, depression, bad habits, shame and more.  She also discusses how you can rewire the brain for positive actions and occurrences.  This may be one of the most powerful interviews yet as if a brain can truly be rewired imagine all the positive things that can come and the negative things that can be averted. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

3 Mai 20211h 21min

Hay Kweenz! We made it through another week. It's another edition of Regular Guy Friday. The episode may be a bit of a downer as the Kweenz discuss the dying process. It's a subject we rarely wish to discuss or face, even though it's the surest reality we will experience in life. From taking ego out of the process to remembering who the final days are about (the person passing) the duo share actions that have helped them and loved ones. The truth is revealed about the purpose of funerals: funerals are for the living not the dead. They also discuss the best means of preparation and the best means to honor those who have passed, along with why gravesites may be of value to those alive.  The Western 'Disney' view of death is covered vs. a perhaps more healing, mature and healthy means that other cultures subscribe to.  Our life here is brief, our loved ones never leave us  and we will see them again soon enough.  Kels and Kev discuss this and how they coped with their losses.  On a lighter note, Kelsey teased a Saturday of 500 Kweenz up in Boston with Kev's family and how we should view more tasks and periods in our lives as adventures rather than duties we dread.  We were reminded AGAIN that 50% of life is showing up an that the other 50% is knowing your a Kween.  Actually, whose kiiding who, it's 100% about knowing you're a Kween, Keenze. Bye Betches. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

30 Apr 20211h 9min

Youtube: https://youtu.be/7ltQ-rAvHFw Jane the Virgin star, filmmaker, director and author Justin Baldoni sat in with the Heal Squad to discuss his new book 'Man Enough' and the process of undefining masculinity. Justin who has worked closely with people in their last stages of life shared powerful thoughts and experiences to help us all cope with death.  The conversion turned to the detrimental stereotypes  of masculinity that hinder and hurt men and women. Justin shared his 'why ladder' tool : a means to cure so many mental ailments including depression and the lack of fulfillment. Whether you're a male or female this is a great interview to help you, a son, brother or partner live their best life. He also shared its not about achieving self love - it's more about achieving self awareness! Get the book for ALL the men in your life - https://manenough.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

29 Apr 20211h 12min

Woman's Day Editor In Chief, author of Your Fully Charged Life and Better Together friend sat in with the Heal Squad to discuss the power of positive mindsets and how to achieve and maintain one even in the worst of times. Meagan opens up about her own negativity growing up, along with her best friend's suicide at age 16 and what steps she took to change it.  Meagan drops so many gems from making your mess your message to gratitude not being negotiable to happiness being a state of 'doing' not 'being' to seeing the pandemic as the Great Life Edit to Dopamine Dressing to finding purpose from your traumas and how to be the boss of your own brains.  Somehow there was room to discuss the need for specificity in breaking habits, how to build resilience, beat FOMO and how negativity loves company. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support

28 Apr 20211h 4min