176. The Attachment Cycle Explained (Why We're Attracted to People Who End Up Hurting Us)

176. The Attachment Cycle Explained (Why We're Attracted to People Who End Up Hurting Us)

In this episode, I’m diving into why we keep getting drawn to the same types of partners, even when those relationships don't work out or we keep getting hurt. I’ll break down the psychology behind attraction, how our early experiences and attachment styles play a huge role, and why it’s so damn hard to break those familiar patterns. I’m also sharing my own journey of recognizing these dynamics in my life and what it took to finally shift from toxic cycles to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Plus, I’ve got some practical tips to help you do the same.


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