S4:E24 - Alex & Lucy

IVF First Try, Birth Emergency & Dating Again: Alex’s Solo Motherhood Story

From teen conviction to IVF with genetic testing, an emergency C-section, reflux, and a new identity as a working mum.

She always knew she’d go it alone—and when the time came, she didn’t wait. Alex’s journey from a teen conviction to IVF success, a rare birth emergency, and thriving again after a tough start is a testament to resilience and self-trust.

Alex decided as a teenager that she wanted to have a child on her own and didn’t want anyone else involved in parenting. She set herself a deadline of 30 and stuck to it—choosing IVF with genetic testing due to a family history of disease, and falling pregnant on her first try at 29. But her birth didn’t go to plan: after decreased movements led to an induction, a cord prolapse triggered a crash C-section under general anaesthetic. The newborn stage brought reflux, severe sleep deprivation, and postnatal anxiety and depression—made worse by a comment about child protective services that stopped her seeking help. With reflux medication, Tresillian support, and a return to work at nine months, she found her footing again. Now, with Lucy almost four, Alex is thriving, dating more than ever, and proud of the life she’s built.

Key Highlights:

• Teen Conviction, Firm Cut-Off - From her teens, Alex knew she’d parent solo and set a hard age limit to start—she stuck to it without compromise.

• IVF with Genetic Testing—First Time Success - Because of a genetic condition, she chose IVF and preimplantation genetic testing. Her first round produced the embryo that became Lucy.

• A Rare Birth Emergency - Induced for decreased movements, Alex experienced a cord prolapse that required an emergency C-section under general anaesthetic.

• Postnatal Struggles and a CPS Threat - Reflux, weight loss, and exhaustion led to PPA/PPD, but a comment about calling child protective services made her hide her struggles.

• Turning Point and a Thriving Life - With reflux under control, Tresillian support, and a return to work, Alex regained her confidence and energy. She’s now dating, raising Lucy, and living life on her terms.

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