02: Stepping Stones to Self-Esteem

02: Stepping Stones to Self-Esteem

The self-esteem movement of the 1970s got one thing profoundly wrong. It treated self-esteem as a vitamin you give to yourself with affirmations in the mirror, and it told generations of parents to flood their kids with praise. Dr. Lisle argues the mechanism was never designed to be fooled that easily, and the people trying hardest to fake it are usually the ones suffering most.

In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle walks through the evolutionary architecture of self-esteem. He explains Mark Leary's sociometer research, why depression is a signaling device rather than a disease, the critical distinction between esteem and self-esteem, and his own concept of the internal audience. He lays out the three domains where humans compete for status (mating, friendship, trade), why self-esteem is domain-specific rather than global, and the exact fundamentals you can practice to raise the internal audience's regard on a daily basis.

Beat Your Genes is co-hosted by evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Dr. Nathan Gershfeld, DC.

New episodes every other week.

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388: Why Can't I Let Go When He Sends Me Mixed Messages?

388: Why Can't I Let Go When He Sends Me Mixed Messages?

A listener has spent a year chasing a high-profile CEO who disappears for weeks, resurfaces warmly, and never quite commits. She knows the math doesn't add up, so why can't she walk away? Dr. Doug Lis...

12 Elo 51min

387: The Black Sheep of a Genius Family

387: The Black Sheep of a Genius Family

She grew up in a family of surgeons, a Google computer scientist, and a NASA astrophysicist, and she became a flight attendant who wanted to be a housewife. Now her genius-level family calls her the f...

22 Heinä 33min

386: How to Handle Bad Advice Without a Fight

386: How to Handle Bad Advice Without a Fight

What do you say when a friend or family member recommends horse-assisted coaching, family constellations therapy, or the latest protein fix for your problems? Evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle ...

10 Heinä 45min

385: It's Not the Men. It's Who You Keep Choosing.

385: It's Not the Men. It's Who You Keep Choosing.

A listener who knows evolutionary psychology well asks Dr. Doug Lisle a painful question. If men seem satisfied once they have food and sex, and never care about her inner life, is she fighting a losi...

26 Kesä 1h 12min

384: What Looks Like a Flaw Is Actually a Strategy

384: What Looks Like a Flaw Is Actually a Strategy

Why do some people freeze when they try to speak up in a group, while others jump in without a second thought? Dr. Doug Lisle says it is not shyness or a confidence problem you can train away. It is y...

10 Kesä 1h 5min

Why Your Bad Moods Are Never Random

Why Your Bad Moods Are Never Random

A listener noticed their kid gets dissatisfied after too much screen time and asked Dr. Lisle a deeper question: when your mood feels off, is it always worth analyzing, or are some bad moods just rand...

3 Kesä 1h 9min

Perfect on Paper, But Not for Me - Mate Value, Attraction, and the Disagreeable Personality

Perfect on Paper, But Not for Me - Mate Value, Attraction, and the Disagreeable Personality

Most people assume mate value is a fixed, rankable number and that attraction follows logically from it. Dr. Lisle says that is the wrong model entirely. Mate value has deep objectivity across a popul...

13 Touko 1h

When the Marriage Is Over, but the Mortgage Isn't

When the Marriage Is Over, but the Mortgage Isn't

Most people think a marriage in trouble can be downgraded into a business arrangement to protect the house. Dr. Lisle says that is the previous investment trap talking, not your judgment. The four wal...

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